Reader Question: From Disorganization to Organization

by Mandi on August 25, 2009

source: sindesign

source: sindesign

I promised Chele a couple of weeks ago that I would share some tips for developing habits of organizing for someone who struggles with disorganization and isn’t sure where to start.

I think an important key here is to remember that it will take time. Do not beat yourself up for not being able to make all of the changes you want right away! To be honest, even though I’ve always liked things organized and been super organized professionally, it took me more than five years as a wife and mother before I developed the habits that really make me feel like I’m on top of my home organization (for the most part). It was a hard road!

Here are four tips for getting started:

Start Small

Choose the area that most drives you nuts and focus on developing a habit in that area. If you’re like me, you may feel like you should jump in with both feet and try to change all of your habits at one time (after all, what good is making one little change if the rest of your life is still disorganized?). However, it is exactly this kind of thinking that will stop you from ever making any changes at all. It’s virtually impossible to make several major changes at once, and you’ll likely end up discouraged and not accomplish anything.

What area of your home or life do you think will have the biggest impact on the way you feel? Which area bothers you the most? Whether it’s your laundry routine, the stack of dishes that you leave in the sink every night only to have to face it in the morning or the clutter hidden in your bedroom closet, choose one small area to start and focus your energy there.

Set Achievable Goals

Once you’ve chosen the area that you want to tackle, lay out an ideal plan for what you’d like it to look like. What habits do you want to form in that area? What would that closet look like if it was organized?

I love written lists, and I often write things down just to clear my mind and process my thoughts, so I strongly recommend that your write down your goal or vision to start. Having it written down provides you with a concrete outline that you can use to motivate yourself and measure your progress.

Take the First Step

Now that you know what habit you would like to develop or what room you’d like to organize, an obvious but often neglected step is to simply get started. It’s often said that a habit takes 21 to 30 repetitions or days to take hold. If you expect perfection from the start, you’re going to fail. It’s important to just get started and keep pushing forward even when you don’t succeed.

For example, if your goal is to have a clean sink each evening, a la Fly Lady, make the decision to clean it up that first night and then do it. Do it again the second day. If you skip it on the third night, do not give up. Simply make the decision the next day that you’ll do it, and then follow through. Keep going until it becomes a habit.

On the other hand, if your goal is to clean up a space — and keep it that way — rather than to develop a daily habit or routine, I would encourage you to just jump in and get started. You may not get it all done in one day, and you may not be completely happy with it when you’re done, but each step is a step in the right direction, and you’ll never get to your goal if you don’t start!

Keep Going

Once you develop the first habit or organize the first area, set your sights on another habit or space and follow the same steps all over again. As you meet your goals, it will get easier and easier to develop the same habits or organization in other areas. It won’t happen overnight, but focus on what you accomplish each step of the way rather than what isn’t perfect.

If you’ve gone from being unorganized to organized, share your best tip for making it happen. What one area could you make changes in today?


  • Frugal Dad’s Wife

    I have been reading your site for a while and was happy to hear that you joined the network.

  • Frugal Dad’s Wife

    I have been reading your site for a while and was happy to hear that you joined the network.

  • http://www.thebonafidelife.com Chele

    Mandi, thank you so much!! It’s too funny, it kind of goes with my struggles the past few days and what my post was about today. Haha! This helped me a lot! I’ll check back later and see what others say! :)
    .-= Chele´s last blog ..Take a Breather! =-.

  • http://www.thebonafidelife.com Chele

    Mandi, thank you so much!! It’s too funny, it kind of goes with my struggles the past few days and what my post was about today. Haha! This helped me a lot! I’ll check back later and see what others say! :)
    .-= Chele´s last blog ..Take a Breather! =-.

  • http://www.overcomingbusy.com Marci@OvercomingBusy

    Great advice! Starting small is so important. We are so much more likely to make habits stick if we see success right away in small ways rather than try to tackle the whole mountain at once and not noticing any changes.
    .-= Marci@OvercomingBusy´s last blog ..Homeschooling With A Little Help From Our Friends =-.

  • http://www.overcomingbusy.com Marci@OvercomingBusy

    Great advice! Starting small is so important. We are so much more likely to make habits stick if we see success right away in small ways rather than try to tackle the whole mountain at once and not noticing any changes.
    .-= Marci@OvercomingBusy´s last blog ..Homeschooling With A Little Help From Our Friends =-.

  • Pingback: Bona Fide Link Love — The Bona Fide Life

  • http://becomingminimalist.com/ becoming minimalist

    depending on your personality, telling a friend about your intentions and goals may be helpful too. knowing that a friend may ask me how i’m progressing provides me with extra motivation even if they never actually ask.
    .-= becoming minimalist´s last blog ..minimalism, blackberries, and the tyranny of the urgent =-.

  • http://becomingminimalist.com/ becoming minimalist

    depending on your personality, telling a friend about your intentions and goals may be helpful too. knowing that a friend may ask me how i’m progressing provides me with extra motivation even if they never actually ask.
    .-= becoming minimalist´s last blog ..minimalism, blackberries, and the tyranny of the urgent =-.

  • http://www.lifedomestic.com Julie @ Life Domestic

    I am enjoying your site so much!
    .-= Julie @ Life Domestic´s last blog ..Save Dollars… HUNDREDS of DOLLARS =-.

  • http://www.lifedomestic.com Julie @ Life Domestic

    I am enjoying your site so much!
    .-= Julie @ Life Domestic´s last blog ..Save Dollars… HUNDREDS of DOLLARS =-.

  • Pingback: Bona Fide Link Love | The Bona Fide Life

  • http://todayshousewife.blogspot.com Sandra

    My husband & I were talking about this just yesterday! I was at a friend’s house who says she just can’t stay home all day long and has to get out. Trouble is, getting out usually means spending money! I planned two free activities today (the library & park) then decided to stop and get a snack on the way home! Ugh! :)

  • http://www.notjustcute.com Amanda

    I was just laughing to myself about this the other night in the checkout line. I ran to the store (a convenient 2 miles away) for butter. Somehow it ended up costing me $13. All “needed” things, but not on my list! It’s almost like the more I buy the more the trip was justified. I prefer to send my husband for trips like that. He tends to stick to the list!

    • Anonymous

      LOL! I am the exact same way, Amanda!

  • Anonymous

    ohmy GOSH. a brand new Target and gourmet grocery store just opened a mile from my house.
    NOT GOOD for the wallet!!

    • Anonymous

      I just ran into Target the other day after church to grab a couple snacks and came out with $50 worth! Good grief! I did put them away so they’ll last us for a month or so, but it definitely was way more than I intended to spend!

  • Kelly

    I live in NYC… so just about any time i go out the urge to spend on anything is there… coffee…. fruit….snacks…. random street vendor crap that I forget in the bottom of the stroller for a few days….it’s tough… but i’m getting better!

    • Anonymous

      Oh, that is tough, Kelly! Definitely takes some extra discipline and willpower, I’m sure!

  • http://www.se7en.org.za Se7en

    I am all for this… if you want to save money then just don’t go near the shops!!! We broke the habit of shopping as a way of passing the time and we are all better for it!!! Here’s our post on staying out of the shops: http://www.se7en.org.za/2009/05/06/se7en-dont-often-shop

  • http://simplifytosave.com Amanda Jayne

    I am so guilty of this! I try to get out with the kids or I go stir crazy, but I end up buying something when I’m out. I’ve started leaving my money in the car-no money no buying! It’s actually kind of fun to go into the mall and just look at everything, but not buy.

  • Pingback: Garmin 1490t

  • Pingback: Short sale

  • Pingback: Jetblue Promo Code

  • Pingback: Simple golf swing system

  • Pingback: Boston lofts

  • Pingback: apartments Boston

  • Pingback: rental car service

  • Pingback: Purchase Acai Berry

  • Pingback: Family solicitors

  • Pingback: Conveyancing

  • Pingback: iTeleport app review for the iPad in HD +Giveaway!! | Best VPN Router

  • Pingback: Sexchat

  • Pingback: Short sale

  • Pingback: Stop Your Snoring Now

  • Pingback: apartments for rent in Boston

Previous post:

Next post: